This past weekend I attended the Stiletto Women in Business Awards and it was phenomenal. I got a great chance to meet women who were up to big things. It reminded me that no one can operate in a silo and its necessary to get out and be inspired by others. That’s how we get the drive to keep on moving.
Our WHO?Woman Pam was asked to do an interview about Veterans in the Kentucky and Indiana area. You can see what she has to say at the 2:40 mark.
I was participating in a tweet chat that I have recently found and love called #blogtrends. During the online conversation the question of self growth came up and it made me think of this:
It got me to thinking. What does my expansion look like. How do I know that I am actually expanding and furthering my dreams and goals? How do I know if the pain of “expansion” is actually just the pain of being confined in my box. I tried to create a way to measure expansion in my life, a way to know if a step forward is actually a step forward. So, I think one way to do this is to pick 5 specific areas of importance to my life.
1. Family relationships
4.Learning a language
5.Health through eating and exercise
And plotting them. Giving them each a rank about where I think I am and where I want to be. What is the scale for these areas?
1. 5/9 (out of 10)
Create a list of actions that will have me move forward in these areas.
1. Communicate with a relative once a week.
2. Plan 2 networking meetings a week. 20 emails a week. 5 calls a week.
3. Fiscally plan what my business needs to expand.
4. Schedule Spanish in a month (it’s an app) daily.
5. Sleep in exercise clothes (It’s what I gotta do so I don’t even have to think about it in the morning)
And taking a monthly check to see if I have moved up or down.
I am not sure this is going to work, I’ve never done it before. But I figure I can give it a go and adjust. How would you do it? What would you focus on?
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What are you committed to in life? Share in the comments.
When I was at the conference for Global Transformation that questions was asked. Actually they asked “Where are you afraid you might suck?” And to tell the truth of it. Everywhere. I am afraid that I might fail in all that I do. How about that to start off a Saturday morning?
But that question really got me going. If I am afraid about everything that I do then I don’t have any freedom. If I am always worried about how bad the outcome might be then I am not looking for ways to create what could be. I am not open to the myriad of possibilities that don’t include failing. Because I am only look for ways that I will fail.
A self fulfilling prophecy.
In short you can’t create yourself if you have to NOT fail. If you are looking to always avoid failure then you will only participate in those activities that will guarantee not failing. In short, the same thing you did yesterday is what you will do today. Now, sometimes that’s a good thing. You stopped at a red light yesterday and you should also stop today. But what about taking on a big project? Last time you did it, things did not end well. Does that mean you will never attempt something big again? Giving yourself the room to fail at something you’ve never done before allows you room to grow.
Did you speak English perfectly at 1? No, you failed at pronouncing “lamb” correctly but that didn’t make you mute. You learned and corrected your mistakes. You were driven by a greater need. The need to express yourself to your parents and peers. You knew that this tool would allow you to get what you wanted. You now can express complex ideas, tell people you love them, create works of art, buy a house, order food, all through the use of language.
In failing you have to accept being imperfect and use others where your weaknesses are. When I got that I personally don’t have to be perfect, that I could make my perfection out of the support of others – I got a whole new freedom. I didn’t have to know everything. I didn’t even have to know most things. I just knew that there are things I want to do and I might make mistakes. In fact, I was going to make mistakes and it didn’t matter. Those mistakes were not me. Those mistakes were not the sum of what makes me me. Distinguishing that my mistakes were not me allowed me to see all the success that I was not able to see before. Before my mistakes negated my success because successful people do not make mistakes like that. By acknowledging my fears and knowing that they are always lurking in the background I am now empowered to look them in the face and say “Today is not your day”. Where are you afraid you might suck?