A little known fact is that I love infographics. Infographics are brightly colored charts or graphs that make complex information interesting and easy to grasp, basically “informative graphics”.
Well, this particular infographic speaks about the colors that men and women are drawn to. I thought with some of the items that it pointed out such as: In color naming; men keep it simple and women are expressive. They each use completely language to describe what they see in the world.
It is no wonder then that the way the world appears to the sexes is completely different. If guys see ‘gray’ they see a mix of black and white. If a women sees ‘gray’ she might see “aluminum”.
Now, the reason that stuck out to me (beyond all the other interesting tidbits found here) are that, in words we create our life.
If something as simple as gray can generate different descriptions. Then something like how you see an argument with your spouse will generate vastly different descriptions.
The important thing is to hear how they see things. Hear the words they are exactly saying and get them. If they say “red” get “red” and not “orangey pinky hue”. If you go to Home Dept and try to match “orangey pinky hue” you will come back with a color that does not match “red”. And the problems will spiral from there.
Now, what do you think?
I came to a situation that made me realize that I have no grace for others, let alone myself. Long story short, I met a young woman who I couldn’t stand. She seemed sheltered and naieve. And she also reminded me of a younger me.
This realization revealed something that I had missed before. I have no grace for who I am as a human. I expect perfection when it is impossible to give. Instead I dislike who I was, pretending that I like who I am. It is not a confidence issue. I have great confidence. It is an issue of me accepting my humanness. Accepting all that I am and ALL that I am not.
So now, I am on a journey. A journey to get to the very depths of my ugliness and the very highs of my beauty. I am intent on discovering all that makes me me and giving myself the grace to let it be. Without having to change it and make it better.
First things first, I always want to know every answer before I do anything. That’s just who I am. It’s ok to want that. I just have to make sure I am not allowing it to stop what’s important to me. I can want the answers and still take action.
What are thorns in your life that you keep trying to run away from? How you interact with men? How you handle your kids? How you cook food?
As summer draws to a close and schools start back in session what are your kids going to get out of this year? School, beyond the “book” learning, provides important social interactions that allows your kids to scrimmage in the “real world” and then come back to you to look at the play tapes.
With this, you have the opportunity to point out that all the little lessons we learned growing up. All the lessons that even as adults we still use such as; take responsibility for your actions, putting it off does NOT make it go away, and wish as you might Cs do not turn into As with wishing.
Lessons from school allow children to explore the world and create what they will of it.
What lessons do you want your kids to take away this year? Share in the comments below!
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